TW: abusive/toxic relationship So my mom has been with my father for many years (since the 90s). He has been the one making money ever since she had 4 kids. They have a terrible, abusive, and draining relationship. My mom isn’t financially stable and has been an at home mom for so long. How do I help her out of this situation? She cries to me and tells me she’s going to die lonely inside and I just don’t know what I can do to help her out of this relationship when she depends on him.

Has she tried looking for even part time work? A lot of places are hiring for even seasonal.. if she begins earning a little money of her own she can begin to gain some financial freedom so hopefully she can get out of that situation. My heart goes out to your mom, yourself and your siblings 💗

@Dessie11xo she has tried talking about finding a job or going back to college. My dad is against the idea and doesn’t want her to get a job. He literally doesn’t allow her to be independent.Thank you for your kindness

Ok so first off, I’m so sorry to hear this about your family and your mother. What a sad situation your in right now. My heart goes out to you. Second, a job or a hobby is not really going to fix the bigger issue which is the abusive relationship. To me (and for what personally had happened in my life) that’s just like putting a bandaid on a 3rd degree burn. I suggest first call around to women shelter or women help centers. Almost all cites should have something that can help. Your mom needs to decide if she will leave your father and start her own life finally. Third she seems like getting therapy would and could help her a lot in the sense of how alone and defeated she sounds. Lastly I’ve worked/gone to three women centers in my life and all are amazing. A lot will take you in, help you get away from abusive partners, help you get a job or go to school and show you how to save money and make a life for your self. If you need any help in finding something don’t hesitate to ask me. I have a lot of experience with this stuff and can do my best to help you 💖