how do you let painful feelings go when you have been deceived, lied to then gaslight when you called them out.. and you are mean to yourself cause you saw the signs but wanted to see the good in them. how do you let that go when it all just hurts.

You probably have to sit with, feel and process those feelings before you can just let them go. Definitely start by forgiving yourself and trying to be a bit kinder to yourself. It's human to want to see the good in people. It's not your fault that the person resorted to lying and gaslighting.