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Aug 12
04:38
Ive been really stressed lately about family and recently my boyfriend had been reacting out of anger and he left me in the house while i was having anxiety to go cool off and hang out with friends.. i had a panic attack and didn’t want to be in the house alone so the only person i know other than my boyfriend that lives around me is my ex so i hung out with him today and nothing happened but he did flirt with me and hugged me .. I still want to be with my boyfriend and love him with all my heart but i just needed to get out should i feel guilty?
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Aug 12
04:40
I don’t think you should ever feel guilty for putting yourself first
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Aug 12
04:40
Sounds like you don’t get what you need from your bf. Also maybe get some help because your bf and ex won’t always be there to help with your anxiety, need to learn some coping mechanisms
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Aug 12
04:47
I agree but is it considered cheating if i did kinda play fight with him and i was enjoying his company? I want to be with my boyfriend and he has done nothing but help me and be there for me he just sometimes reacts bad to certain topics and I felt helpless and alone at the moment
 
Aug 12
04:51
I would consider it cheating but i have that boundary in my relationship. I don’t know what rules you set in yours
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Aug 12
04:57
Maybe go back to your ex ? I wouldn’t stay with a guy that I find a replacement the one moment he isn’t there for me. You could have gone with a friend but you went with your ex who still has feelings for you, and you maybe feel something too ? Something to think about. Like @santaclariita
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Aug 12
04:58
Like @santaclariita said * it’s not cheating because we say it is, it depends on what your relationship decides what counts and doesn’t as cheating
 
Aug 12
04:59
I personally don’t consider it cheating. You were just enjoying the company of another person.
 
Aug 12
05:28
It wasn’t the first time that its happened its constant that I feel like im the only one who has to compromise and listen but when I want to talk he thinks im saying something different than what I meant and gets upset with it can never have a calm conversation about something he doesn’t like ... i just got fed up and overwhelmed... I want to make everybody happy but i dont make sure i am.. my last intention was to “cheat” i just didn’t need to be alone while feeling so overwhelmed and my ex was the only other person available
 
Aug 12
05:31
I don’t think I have feelings for my ex i just liked that he was calm and let me vent w/o getting loud and upset.. it too my mind off things for a while but I didn’t do anything sexual with him .. I just want my boyfriend to sit down and be able to have a calm conversation w/ me even if not everything i say is something he agrees with or likes .., i love him and I would never want to hurt him.. @marinatumina @em862 @santaclariita
 
Aug 12
05:33
I wouldn’t have wanted him to go hang out with his ex and I know he wouldn’t be ok with it if he knew but i just wanted to feel less anxiety and stress because if I stayed in the house or alone I would overthink myself till i was sick
 
Aug 12
05:40
I feel like you messed up hanging out with your ex.. like just because your not getting attention from your boyfriend your gonna go to your ex? That’s the way I look at it. Does your boyfriend know?
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Aug 12
05:45
It was wrong for your boyfriend to leave yes. But why would you go hangout with your ex? Like just because I’m upset and my boyfriend isn’t around I never thought about going to hangout with an ex. If my boyfriend did that I’d be really really upset. Also I think you need to work on some ways to deal with your anxiety without needing other’s.
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Aug 12
08:21
I don’t plan on doing it again I feel terrible about it i never do things like that.. should I tell him or leave it alone and just not do it again? @ilovepizza @sunflowers0
 
Aug 12
08:23
Idk I wasn’t thinking It was stupid but im not the cheating type of person... my loyalty runs deep i just struggles/ dealing with my anxiety and I also plan on seeking therapy for it to learn to cope better
 
Aug 12
09:26
I don’t consider it cheating honestly, you were just getting emotional support.
 
Aug 12
11:46
Really consider moving on from your relationship if you’re not getting the emotional labor back that you put in
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Aug 12
11:52
I don’t consider it cheating but i think several boundaries were crossed and you need to tell your boyfriend that you turned to your ex instead of him, he deserves to know.
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Aug 12
12:24
People can be friends with exes, but it seems like it may not be a fully platonic relationship yet and I personally find it odd to hop onto an exes' attention once your boyfriend left. If he's not reciprocating your emotional needs, you'd be best off reconsidering the relationship altogether.
 
Aug 12
13:17
It sounds like you really need other friends and a better emotional support system. You can’t rely only on guys you are/have been romantically involved with for support. You made a mistake and we all do at some point but let this be a push for you to find better strategies and ways of coping with your mental health.
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