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Jan 12
01:34
Hello everyone, I know this is long but I needed to vent. So I found out yesterday by one of my really close coworker/friend that our director talked sh*t about me on the day (Monday) I couldn’t come in because I was away in Austin and my boyfriend got very sick, so sick he couldn’t drive me back home. I had sent her a message 2 days before letting her know he is my only ride back to Houston and he can’t drive me because he is sick. I get a response back with an “Ok” that’s it just Ok, so I thought that’s good she understands. Tuesday morning I come in and Immediately I am being interrogated by my director and her assistant asking me a bunch of questions about Monday and why I couldn’t come in and I was confused because I thought I had already told her but anyways I proceed to explain why I couldn’t come in because I was away in Austin and my bf was too sick to drive me back. They both go “OOOHHHH we thought you were here in Houston” I said “oh? I thought I put it in the message I sent to you” and she goes back to reread the message and says I didn’t mention anywhere that I was in Austin and she is right. BUT I had put “seeing as he is my only ride back to Houston” and I remember vividly telling both of them before the break that I was spending the holiday break in Austin. I guess she forgot, idk. Anyways my coworker/friend tells me today over lunch that on Monday when I couldn’t come in she came in yelling and absolutely angry at me and telling other employees this… “I CANNOT BELIEVE HER, I know she’s young, but she needs to GROW UP and drive herself!” My friend said she was telling everybody this! And while she is saying all of this she is yelling. My friend said she tried calming her down and telling her that I was away in Austin and my bf was too sick to drive me back but she thinks she was too mad to even listen to what she was saying! she was going crazy. Now, I completely understand being upset but don’t go around the workplace yelling at employees about me! Keep it to yourself! Or better yet. Tell it to my face!! I honestly could not believe what I was hearing… I was so upset I told my bf and he was more upset than I was. What do you guys think? This is making me want to quit and find another job because I feel so weird now knowing that she did this and didn’t talk to me about it or idk.. maybe ask me more questions? Like why just say “ok” but the next day take it out on other employees and talk bad about me to them! That’s so disrespectful and unprofessional..
 
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Jan 12
01:41
I agree, that’s very disrespectful and unprofessional. If you’re able to secure a job before you quit, that would be the best option! But I’ve quit jobs without having another one lined up and it’s helped my mental health so if that will help you then I encourage you to do so!
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Jan 12
01:46
She’s defs jealous idk idk
 
Jan 12
01:47
@maeve_ I’m already looking at other places to apply to
 
Jan 12
01:47
@Pink_Flaming why do you think that?
 
Jan 12
01:53
I’m only salty like that when I’m jealous…she was rude smh and making the vibe toxic…she’s also embarrassed herself so you have the upper hand in my opinion
 
Jan 12
02:03
@Pink_Flaming ooh I see.. it really sucks though because I liked her as a boss and now I don’t know how to feel about her
 
Jan 12
02:05
Maybe she was having an off day? You could try having a conversation with her before you quit and possibly get some kind of understanding.
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Jan 12
02:08
@honeypot3 I considered that but still you could maybe tell your husband or keep it to yourself but don’t go around the workplace yelling and talking about me like that to other coworkers. That hurts me and puts me in a weird uncomfortable position especially now that I have to work with them knowing she went around saying this about me
 
Jan 12
02:14
:(
 
Jan 12
02:18
What’s even more sad is the fact that my coworkers are now telling me that if there’s a next time to not even be honest with her. It shouldn’t be like that! I shouldn’t have to lie to her. I was completely honest with her and in return I get stabbed in the back and in secret yells at other people about me. That’s not ok.
 
Jan 12
03:27
Definitely look for another job but I would bring it up to her (she can’t be mad that coworkers told you about it) and ask her to please maintain discretion when discussing things that pertain to you and that you don’t feel comfortable hearing your coworkers tell you how she was openly criticizing you. I do agree that you’re not obligated to be 100% transparent with your employer in the sense that you don’t need to disclose where you’re going to be on your days off. You can simply leave it at informing them that you will be out of town.
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Jan 12
03:45
@nothingtowrite888 You’re right I will do that and if there is a next time I won’t be 100% transparent
 
Jan 12
20:32
I would tell HR. That behaviour is extremely unprofessional. Your director shouldn’t hold anything against you and take her anger out on the rest of her employees.
 
Jan 12
21:31
@birb I agree..
 

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