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Jun 8
18:57
Hi, I wanted to talk about pain while penetration. I just started having sex with my partner, I’m experiencing my first sexual interactions and I’m having problem with pain and unpleasant feeling during sex. I use lube and we try a lot of foreplay however it still feels unpleasant that is why we usually switch to fingering and other sexual activities not connected to penetration. We also usually don’t have a place to have sex while also feeling 100% safe and private because we still live with our parents, so I think that might also add to the stress and unpleasantness of the intercourse. My question is did any of you experienced something like this in the beginning of their sexual interactions, should I talk to the doctor about it even tho I’m just starting having sex or maybe how to deal with that?
 
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Jun 8
19:02
I would say my first few times were slightly uncomfortable cause it was so foreign to me. I bought myself some toys and experimented myself when I was relaxed and had privacy. It helps to figure out what you do/don’t like without any pressure. I personally can tell you that as you get more in tune with your body and what feels good, it gets better. Don’t power through what hurts, take your time to get comfortable and remember it should never be painful!
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Jun 8
19:02
Do you get 30+ mins of foreplay? If you do i would go to the doctor
 
Jun 8
19:03
@Yujiii Yes, I’m actually in the process of choosing toys and just exploring things. And yeah it’s very important to feel comfortable and luckily my partner always provides that.
 
Jun 8
19:04
@nikeyxo The foreplay sometimes lasts shorter, so I guess I should prolong that part
 
Jun 8
19:06
@Nesso Definitely make sure you get at least 30 mins. If the pain carries on even after that i would definitely go to the doctor, pain during sex is not normal regardless of whether it’s your first time having sex.
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Jun 8
19:08
@nikeyxo Yes important to remember of course thank you, I will try with foreplay and think about the doctor if it won’t be better
 
Jun 9
12:53
Make sure you’re getting 30 minutes of foreplay *focused on you.*
 

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