Older Partners. There is quite a large age gap between me and my partner, 20+ years. Just wondering if anyone else in a similar situation and what differences you have noted between your age gap relationship and other similar age relationships. For example I notice my partner is extremely focused on my pleasure much more so than any other guy I’ve been with yet he also never wants to do something that “objectifies” me in anyway. Has anyone experienced anything similar?

Focusing on a partners pleasure has nothing to do with age, it’s a pretty basic expectation to have on any sex partner. I have experienced that with several people since I started becoming sexually active. I think large age gaps are a red flag unless both are over 25 and are fully emotionally developed and in the same life stage.

I don’t really think either of those have to do with age in my opinion

@Marmoulak literally my thoughts

How old are you and your partner?

I’m 25 he’s 48. Both fairly stable adults. Obviously I realise that it’s not just an age thing but I’ve really only noticed the difference with him.

I’ve been in large age gap relationships. And it’s something I prefer. I don’t find that older men are in any way better than younger men or men my age, I just enjoy dating older men. People always talk maturity when dating an older man but I’ve met some pretty immature old men and mature young men and vice versa. Just depends on the person. Pleasure wise it’s more or less the same, I always date people who are gonna focus on my pleasure and I focus on theirs. Also, to add to all that I sometimes seek older men because they are financially stable which I know is shallow but it’s my preference.

That has nothing to do with age. I’d expect my partners to be like that. A guy who thinks otherwise is just selfish and sexist.

@marmoulak Agree I slept with someone double my age and he was no better than the ones my age x

I’m in a very similar age gap relationship and whilst my SO always prefers to pleasure me, it’s nothing to do with age. It’s just because he’s a lovely person who wants to satisfy me over himself.

I’m 6 months older than my boyfriend and he cares about my pleasure more than even his own. It’s not an age thing. Sorry that you’ve been with immature children who objectified you and didn’t care about your pleasure, but the solution isn’t to date older men. It’s to date better men or to be single

The guy I have slept with who was the #1 most invested and attentive to my pleasure was younger than me

@Kazoo It’s not a case of it being a solution to date older men. In general I tend to prefer older guys anyway. This isn’t the reason why I’m with him, has just been an observation. Glad your boyfriend seems great in that department too!