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Jun 8 21
17:20
What if you feel you partner doesn’t wanna settle down? Would you still continue?
 
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Jun 8 21
17:23
No I wouldn’t. I don’t have the energy or time to wait for them to grow up if I am already grown up and ready to settle down. Also depends on what you mean by “settle down” :)
 
Jun 8 21
17:24
I’ve learned it’s easier to just find someone on your level of maturity and place in life.
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Jun 8 21
17:24
I mean having kids and starting a family
 
Jun 8 21
17:25
Thank you. That’s a great advice
 
Jun 8 21
17:25
no, if we don’t want the same things there isn’t much holding us together for the future.
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Jun 8 21
17:27
Personally, no. I would end things. We clearly wouldn’t have similar future interest so I wouldn’t see any point.
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Jun 8 21
17:28
I mean regarding kids, if they aren’t ready for that, then I would see if I’m ok with waiting. If their family planning is not in the time span that I want, then I would leave. For example if they said “I don’t want kids today but maybe in a year or two” then that’s a compromise. But if they say I don’t want kids for another 6-10 years then I’m like boy bye
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Jun 8 21
17:28
Well it depends on if I'm ready to settle down and what I want. I am personally nowhere near ready for kids/a family so if they would be ready a few years into the future that's fine with me.
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Jun 8 21
17:34
I wouldn’t want to be with someone that doesn’t want to settle. But right now i’m on 17 lmao so i have lots of time before marriage and kids so settling isn’t too important to me right now. I keep on going through phases of wanting kids and hating them the next so i bet my partners mind changes all the time too and that’s just part of growing up.
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Jun 8 21
17:36
Completely agree with @aurielle. It depends on what I’m ready for at that moment. For me it also depends on if he doesn’t want those things at all or if he just doesn’t want them at that particular moment. Because if I have been with someone for a long time and we both want kids and they say that they want a couple of more years before they are ready for that I could definitely wait. Leaving and finding someone else and get to that stage would probably take even longer. But of course if they didn’t want it at all or the time frame would be too long for me it would be harder.
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Jun 8 21
20:10
I feel like it would be a waste of time in my opinion if my partner didn’t want to settle down. If we didn’t want the same things in the future I don’t see a point in dating if it’s not going to lead to anything more yenno
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Jun 8 21
20:24
I think kids is something you can't really compromise on. Either you want them or you don't, if your partner doesn't want them ever and you do... Then you leave and find someone who wants the same things. If it's a case where they want kids but not for X years then you need to decide if you are willing to wait that long or if you are better off leaving. Ultimately if you two don't want the same things in life then you should leave
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Jun 8 21
20:36
On the contrary of wanting kids at different times or a partner not wanting them at all I personally don’t want kids , I’m only 17 and things can obviously change, but although I’m romantic and believe I can be caring , I’ve never had much of a maternal instinct and none of it appeals to me. If my partner was dead set on having kids , and saw that as his future , even though I’m young , I’d definitely have to consider where it’s going , and I wouldn’t want to run the chance of having kids later down the line for my partner only and not having my heart in such a big change in my life Maybe I’m thinking to much into it as I’m young , but there’s that Luckily neither of us want kids at the moment so I’m happy with that as is.
 
Jun 9 21
00:29
I wouldn’t pursue a relationship if my partner NEVER wanted to settle down, but if he wants to wait a few years that’s okay with me.
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Jun 9 21
04:45
Completely depends whether or not he doesn’t plan on ever having kids or if he still needs a couple years. I really want to have kids so I wouldn’t be with someone who plans on never having any.
 
Jun 9 21
08:21
If our values don’t align then I’m out. Could date casually but if values aren’t signed or we can’t compromise then a serious relationship couldn’t help
 

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