So I have been seeing this guy for around a 2 1/2 months now. Before things got serious we had been friends for around 6 years. We met again after a while on a night out, after around 2 years. And things were different he looked different spoke different and I just really fancied him. And I’d never looked at him this way before. I’ve always known he has fancied me, but I’d never seen him that way until now. I’ve been out of a relationship for nearly a year now and he’s been single for around 6 months. anyway we really do get on I’m really happy with him and he is very caring and loving towards me we are currently long distance because he lives away for uni. I’ve just come back from seeing him for 3 days and we’ll I had it in my head that he would ask me to be his girlfriend. I feel as if I’m in a relationship without the title. And this really is the only thing I can’t wrap my head around. It just feel silly to be doing everything a couple would without a label. I know I’m ready for a relationship and that I do believe I love him. I have mentioned it to him and he just said it takes him time and that he’s just an awkward person when it comes to asking these things. But is this an excuse by now should he know ???

It takes everyone a different amount of time to ‘know’. If he liked you for 6 years and then you’re barley showing interest I would take it slow with you too. If you’ve already talked to him about this just give him more time.

Just communicate with him and ask! "Are we exclusive?" "Are we officially dating/a couple?" How long ago did you mention this to him? If very recently, then maybe he isn't ready yet or a little inexperienced and doesn't know how to bring up this conversation with you. It's a little different when you're long distance, since you spend less time physically together. It takes longer to get to know people and to see if you're compatible.

Why don't you ask him to be your boyfriend?

^^ as said above talk about it. Communication is key, if you want a relationship with this person then you’re going to need to talk to them. Life is too short, if you want something then just say “I want to make this official. What do you want?”

@xNymphadora I mentioned it to him last night and I left this morning he just said it takes him time and that he’s an awkward person. He’s only ever had one relationship and from what I know it took him 4 months to ask her. I think because I’m ready I’m just overthinking why he isn’t. I don’t want to ask him to be my boyfriend purely because of the rejection because if he isn’t asking me then he’s clearly not ready just yet. But I want to know how long is to long to wait?

@Jennyxx but couldn't you flip that same logic from his point of view that if you aren't asking him you must not be ready yet? It doesn't always have to be the guy who asks. Rejection is scary but that possibility is something you have to accept in all relationships. Genuine connection means you have to risk getting rejected sometimes! But even if he responds that he's not ready just yet, that doesn't mean the relationship has to end! You can just give it a bit more time to develop and grow. Rather than just waiting for him I would be more proactive and ask him so that you can at least see where you stand. Then he can give you an idea of how much longer he needs before making things official and you can decide if you're willing to wait for that long.