My boyfriend and I just had an argument that stemmed from a tik tok girl wearing a revealing shirt. The woman had large breasts and the shirt was tight and low cut. It was really cute and I love the way it looks on her. I don’t understand why he’s so upset about it. He said if I were to wear something like that it would make him very upset and he’d feel disrespected…. I really don’t get that. I’ll wear whatever the hell I want because I own my body. He went on and on about how that’s something only he should get to see. A lot of what he said felt possessive and controlling. He’s a really jealous person and I’m not so I don’t really get what all the fuss is about. I would explain how I felt and I’d get cut off by him or he’s start sounding very angry. I even heard him hit his desk a few times. We’re in a discord call. I ended the conversation by saying I’m giving him some space and that I need some too so I’m going to mute for a while. I don’t know how to feel. Any opinions on the situation?

Seems like insecurities to me from him . Wear what you want, if he gets jealous or gets mad at you for wearing something that makes you feel hot then he can leave.

Honestly I would not be comfortable staying in a relationship where my partner thought he could have a say on what I wore. I think that is extremely controlling and not something I would be happy being around

you aren't an object, he doesn't possess you. Him being controlling and the way he's expressing his (unjustified) anger are red flags; that behavior has implications for what he's capable of

I’d end the relationship, he’s shown major red flags

i would break up with him, i wouldn’t wanna be with someone who feels the need to comment on what women do/wear

I wouldn’t stay in a relationship with someone like that, he’s shown he’s very possessive and controlling and getting so angry over something so minor is a massive red flag.

I wouldn’t stay, there are lots of serious red flags here that are inexcusable. Such as: 1) he sees your body as an object that he can control, dictate, and possess (in other words, he’s a misogynist) 2) he doesn’t see you as his equal who is capable of making your own decisions. 3) he gets mad when he doesn’t get his way, and in a very concerning way. 4) he’s extremely insecure and he clearly doesn’t trust you if he gets jealous easily.

Major red flag you should leave. Getting mad over something so minor is not cute

Huge red flags, I would definitely leave someone like that

you deserve better!