How do you guys deal with arguments where both sides are frustrated and not understanding each other? I feel like my bf and I have moved past our argument but there’s some bitterness on each side. It’s something I know it’ll pass with time and it’s not like we’re seeing each other in person right now so there is not going to be any awkwardness. But I’m not sure if I should dwell on it further.
May 2 00:01
How did you move past it? Were you both able to share your feelings?
May 2 00:01
If it’s still bothering you it would probably be best to have a conversation about what happened and how you guys can handle it and communicate better in the future.
May 2 00:04
Sounds like there’s still some stuff you need to talk out
May 2 01:42
I think it's really important for both parties to feel heard and understood to get past that bitter feeling.
May 2 02:35
Yes you guys are right. We moved past initially by discussing it and how each of us are feeling. But I don’t think we really listened to each other. This is one of our first arguments and it’s frustrating as we can’t deal with our problems in person.
May 2 09:33
@Bananass I have seen my partner twice since March 2020 and it’s not really an excuse. You guys need to work on better communication and it’ll all be fine
May 2 12:42
@Yi_eune I don't think she means it as an excuse. Regardless of whether they're apart or in person couples can have conflicts and as it's one of their firsts they're still learning how to navigate it.
May 2 13:33
@aurielle ah yeah you’re right, perhaps I misinterpreted the message. I do still think they should work on their communication, especially if they are apart! It’s so important
May 2 14:04
@yi_eune Yes I definitely didn’t mean it as an excuse. We’re just both quiet and accustomed to dealing with issues in person. But I am going to talk to him and be more clear today.