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Sep 9
18:43
i have a really serious question and i will put a trigger qarning cause it's about cutting. my mom has said that next time she finds cuts on me she will call the police on me and send me to the "looney bin" or put me in jail. Can she legally put me there or will the police actually say something? Im 20 btw?
 
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Sep 9
18:44
for what its worth i live in California
 
Sep 9
18:49
She can’t put you in jail - there’s no law against harming yourself. She could have you temporarily committed if she can show that there’s a reasonable risk that you might seriously injure yourself or put your life at risk, or the life of others. On a different note, I used to do that when I was struggling w things when I was younger and I really really regret it now. Try to find a different way, any other way, to express those feelings
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Sep 9
18:49
She should be trying to support you and going to therapy. I honestly don’t believe so.
 
Sep 9
18:50
You can be involuntarily committed in a hospital or at least that’s how it is where I live. It’s not very supportive of your mom by saying the looney bin. In a way she may just be voicing how she’s scared and wants you to be okay and may just be going about it the wrong way. Try to find a different method to get your feelings heard and find techniques to avoid that. Maybe going to speak to a therapist?
 
Sep 9
18:52
shes not scared once i was crying and mad in the car and she told me to jump off the car... and shes told me many other things
 
Sep 9
18:52
*well jump out of the moving car and she even told me if i needed help jumping out
 
Sep 9
18:54
Family can be just as toxic as a stranger. And this kind of talking from your parent doesn’t help your situation at all. I’m sorry you have to go through something like this. I hope you can find a way out of that household.
 
Sep 9
21:08
As an adult you cannot be taken to the hospital or jail without consent.
 
Sep 9
22:41
If she were to call the police and say that she thought you were a danger to yourself, they would probably send some people over to assess the situation. If that happens, just be honest and say that you do cut yourself at times, but that you are not suicidal. (Assuming that’s the case.) They don’t go around committing people just based on hearsay. Of course if a doctor or therapist/counselor called them, they would take that a lot more seriously. I also live in California. I’m sorry you’re having to go through all of this. I hope you can find a way to get out of your mom’s house. In the meantime, do you have a therapist or someone to talk to?
 
Sep 10
00:06
i use to have a therapist but shed only care to talk about her newborn and then i had another one and she really wouldnt help much
 
Sep 10
00:08
this life of mine is an uncontrollable mess
 
Sep 10
00:59
Sometimes it takes trying out several different therapists before you find a good fit. Don’t give up though, finding a good therapist can be soooo helpful! *hugs* I’m sorry you have to deal with so much. I have been there- obviously not the exact same situation... But with a crazy, chaotic family, and trying to get better while having people I love say things or act in ways no one who loves you ever should. I will be thinking good thoughts for you and sending love and healing vibes!
 
Sep 11
08:44
Not sure about about California specifically but I know in Pennsylvania you definitely can here regardless of age. It’s called being 302’d aka involuntary commitments. You’re not put in jail but you’re put in a mental institution for I think up to 6 days involuntarily. Extended if the medical profession deem it warrented. The person has to be able to prove: you’re a danger to yourself or others, you’ve made Suicide threats, or that you’ve cut or mutilated yourself or threatened to. It sounds harsh but it’s a very helpful law in getting people help who need it but won’t get help. My best friends parents have done it to her 2 times and at the time she didn’t appreciate it at the time but after she did. The first time she was cutting and had an eating disorder and had lost like 50 lbs down to like 80 lbs. the other time she had locked herself in a closet for half a day threatening to kill herself having a mental breakdown. She knows looking back she could have killed her self either time and is grateful she was forced into help. You need to find a new therapist. It’s not good for your mental health to just let things go and assume they’ll get better. Cutting is a serious thing. And that mixed with your other family issues and stress (/‘d I believe you were recently diagnosed with schizophrenia?) is a bad combo and something you need to deal with properly.
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