Being in a ldr, our solution for being able to have physical intimacy is sending nudes right. And there would be times he’d complain of me not doing it when he asked or not sending enough. And just like you we talked and it felt like there was no solution. Recently it happened again and it truly pissed me off and I sat here and told him I do exactly what it is you want, but because you truly want physical intimacy you’re projecting that in the fact it seems like I’m not doing enough. He then has truly understood and he probably didn’t want to face it or acknowledge cause I don’t either LOL. I’d hate to say you have to sit down, be completely open, and explain that lack of sex drive at times exists, sometimes you don’t want to have sex, sometimes you don’t want to send nudes and explain why. The solution to that is to explain that when you feel that way, that’d you’d prefer to do other things depending what that is. It’s not that you DONT want to. It’s just that there are times where you’re not in the mood and that has to be respected. Otherwise it’ll give you resentment and you’ll lose your love for him. There’s a compromise that has to be made. Even in a ldr, there was a time my bf didn’t feel like having sex, when that small amount of time is the only time we can, and even though it sucked, what we did instead was cuddle! There’s other forms of intimacy to substitute when one partner is not in the mood! You just have to explain throughouly so he can understand how you feel because he may not! Sorry that was so long LOL
