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Jan 9
19:50
When you vent to someone (like a friend or family member) about how you’re feeling sad/upset/depressed, what do you typically look for the other person to do/say? A lot of my friends are coming to me lately, which I’m totally fine with, but I just don’t know what to say. And even though I experience these feelings too I still don’t know what I want the other person to say. Just looking for some input!
 
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Jan 9
19:52
Listen to their experiences, understand by asking “so I’m understanding you’re feeling like x?” Or if you don’t understand ask, validate it like “this must be really difficult for you,” offer support like, would you like to meet up and chat? Can I help you in anyway? Let them know you’re here for them.
 
Jan 9
19:57
Just be there to listen and empathise with them, that’ll be enough to show you’re there for them
 
Jan 9
19:59
^ I think helping them feel validated in their feelings (as long as it is reasonable/healthy) is the most important thing you can do. I have a friend whom I often rant to, and it always ends up being her ranting about a similar situation/comparing her situation to mine and it does not help me in any way. Just listening can be key.
 
Jan 9
21:39
You can actually ask them what would be most helpful for you to do or what they need. Or offer options like “do you want advice in this situation or more of just a listening ear?”
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Jan 10
10:19
Agreed with @aurielle It’s always best to ask what would be most helpful to them because sometimes they might just want to rant and other times they might need advice. Always best to ask instead of assume :)
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