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Sep 18 18
12:29
So I’m having a bit of an issue. It’s probably going to sound stupid but, me and my boyfriend of 2 years were drinking wine and he got a bit tipsy, he then proceeded to randomly comment on how my body is pornstar worthy and went to show me some pornstars and how he thinks my boobs/vagina etc are “perfect” which made me feel super weird. He’s a good guy and all but I just felt very off and I don’t know if I’m just overreacting. Then the whole night he kept saying how much he loves my ass (which he always does) and it got me thinking am I being a bit overly sexualised or is this normal
 
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Sep 18 18
12:33
I wouldn’t take his comments too seriously and think you’re maybe overreacting, he was tipsy, he loves you for so many more reasons than your ass
 
Sep 18 18
12:37
Usually people feel insecure that their bodies don’t match up to pornstars’ so I’d probably be flattered if my boyfriend said this to me.
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Sep 18 18
12:57
^^ I would be totally flattered! Its not a bad thing he said that.
 
Sep 18 18
14:26
I’d probably feel weird but I don’t take compliments well. It’s great he loves your body and everything though, but I think if he says things that make you feel uncomfortable it’s totally fine to tell him that. Just because he’s your BF shouldn’t mean he can say anything even if he means well that you’re not ok with. Not in a rude way but you should be a If right say you understand he’s trying to be kind and appreciate he loves your body but you don’t feel comfortable with the comparisons or if it’s excessive. Just my opinion.
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Sep 18 18
14:32
^ I agree, I would personally take it as a compliment but if something about it makes you uncomfortable you should tell him.
 
Sep 18 18
15:24
I can see how it would be a compliment, I guess I’m just paranoid about being overly sexualised and didn’t wanna reject his compliment if that’s what it was by talking to him about it. Maybe a chat won’t do harm, I do feel uncomfortable being compared to pornstars
 
Sep 18 18
15:38
I get both sides. I wouldn’t wanna be compared to a pornstar but I get he probably meant it as a compliment :)
 
Sep 18 18
15:43
@pinkkk @lunaace1 why would you not want to be compared to a pornstar? Is it because they represent unrealistic beauty standards? Or is there some other reason? Not saying you shouldn’t be uncomfortable with it, just trying to understand where you’re coming from.
 
Sep 18 18
15:52
I think I feel like he somewhat only appreciates my body because it’s close to “perfect” by his standards. And I only realised this after he compared me to the pornstars so I felt weird that maybe that’s where his fetish for my body comes from? But now I just feel like I’m looking way into a compliment but I can’t help not being flattered. Maybe for a moment I felt like he wouldn’t like me if I didn’t have a nice body
 
Sep 18 18
19:52
I get why it might sit the wrong way. Porn stars bodies are typically glorified and seen as what’s attractive when for a lot of people having a body like that is unrealistic. For me it’d upset me because I’d feel like my bf’s standards were typical to what society says is attractive. I can see how he was trying to hype you up but I wouldn’t want to be compared to a porn star either.
 
Sep 18 18
20:16
I feel like you’re kind of looking for a way for this to be insulting. Don’t get me wrong, it can make you uncomfortable and that’s okay, but as @aurielle questioned above, why is it making you uncomfortable? He loves you. He loves your body. Just because your body is close to “perfect” by his standards it’s a bad thing? I’m just confused really. Would you rather your body wasn’t close to what he perceives as perfection? Would you rather he didn’t have any notion of perfection? He loves you, the fact that you’ve got an amazing body that he views as perfect is just a bonus is it not? If you don’t view it as flattering that’s obviously okay, but I don’t think it was insulting. He basically told you you’re most men’s dream woman in terms of physical attractiveness.
 

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