What was it like to lose your virginity? Did you have regrets? Was it spontaneous, planned? Did it feel Good or bad? Did it hurt? How old were you? I’m still a virgin haha, not too experienced on this stuff.

Felt good I just jumped right on it and no regrets and also wasn't planned we where each others first

Haha idk why that made me laugh 😂@tIllyydesanta

It hurt like hell at first because I wasn’t relaxed enough, should’ve done much more foreplay to prevent that!! I don’t regret it though because it was with my boyfriend so I felt safe and loved the whole time

And I even had an orgasm lmao

@newtonian Aw that’s sweet. I kinda have a weird question, does size effect how much it hurts and how big is big enough to hurt a lot even with proper foreplay?

Wasn’t that special, but my partner at the time was selfish. Now I love sex lol

@eiffel_tower Yeah size can effect how much foreplay you need to get it in and how easy/hard it is the first time, but no matter how big your partner is it NEVER SHOULD be painful. It was painful for me because I wasn’t prepared enough, but you can always make penetration comfortable with doing enough foreplay and pain is always a sign that something is wrong, not an expected part of first time sex.

My first time was not a good experience. I was 21. It happened in the back of his car. I was super nervous. Also I have never masterbated before so I didn’t know my body. I was worried about getting caught by the police. He claimed that he was a master of the pill out method, but I still wanted him to use a condom which he did. He started to finger me then I bled. Guys tend to think just because you are wet there that means you are ready. I definitely wasn’t aroused enough. He tried to go in and it didn’t go in it hurt a lot. He then tried to convince me that some people like anal more and that it can be easier. Anal definitely didn’t work... I find out later through social media that he was actually in a relationship with someone. So that hurt me emotionally. I definitely regretted it obviously I wouldn’t have had sex if I knew that he was already in a relationship. Honestly growing up masterbating and the idea of having sex never appealed to me. If I didn’t have sex back then I probably would have stayed a virgin for awhile longer. I still don’t really enjoy sex much to this day. I’ve never had an orgasm with a guy I can only orgasm solo play. I think I could survive without having sex in a relationship. Maybe if I find someone that can make sex a positive experience for me and I enjoy it I might change my mind in the future. I’ve definitely been used and abused and lied to for my body. I had sex like 3 times before I went on birth control so I don’t really know if I ever had a high sex drive as my first few sex experiences weren’t enjoyable. I currently have a low sex drive and don’t know if it’s from birth control or if I just have a low sex drive or if I’m just going through a low sex drive stage.

No regrets. It was spontaneous lol it was at our hs campus on a Sunday behind the auditorium outside😂. Felt great I managed to orgasm. We were both 16 and eachothers first. We did alot of research beforehand because we knew we wanted to have sex and wanted eachother to enjoy it. I am naturally always really lubricated. Like I can stick a penis/vibrator/finger in me right now and I'll immediately resemble a slip and slide. That really helped us out. After that we had sex anytime we could wherever we could. Lol almost 7 years later and my husband and I haven't slowed down.

Don’t regret it at all, I was ready, with a guy I liked and wanted to do it. It was okay, i wasn’t properly wet so it was uncomfortable initially and he is very large down there so that probably didn’t help. The 2nd and 3rd times were a lot better and more comfortable and I’m still with the guy 3 years later and it still gets better and better 🥰😂

Also even though we were both virgins we got tested! To this day we still get tested every few months! So I really encourage that. Also don't be shy to let your partner know what does and doesn't feel good. It's both of your pleasures not just one persons.

@Eiffel_Tower i was 16 and it was with a guy from my grade who liked me and wanted to be FWB. we met up at his house during summer break when he was home alone and had sex on his couch. not very romantic bc i didn’t have feelings for him (he had a crush on me) and it was kinda awkward because we were both inexperienced but that’s normal for the first time. we’ve been dating for three months now and have a lot of great sex due to communication and getting comfortable with each other

My first time was a great experience that I look back on really fondly. I was 20 and with my current boyfriend. We went really slow and did tons and tons of foreplay. It didn’t hurt at all. I didn’t orgasm during penetration, but he went down on me after to make sure I got to cum too lol.

Unfortunately I was taken advantage of my first time and so many times after that by the same person. I’ve learned a lot since I was first sexually active and am glad that I now know and experience consensual sex and great sex. I would also recommend we stop using the term “lose your virginity.” Unfortunately that terminology stems from a place of suppressing women, being kept for your “husband,” and the term virginity as being synonymous with pure. As women we don’t lose anything when we have sex. We are worthy and deserving of consensual experiences in which we experience sex with another person and nothing is lost or becoming impure.

My biggest advice for long before sex would be to read your pamphlet and learn how your pill works to protect you. Understand how to use it properly, what is considered a missed pill, what to do if you miss a pill, etc. if you are ever unsure whether you are protected, use condoms. Use condoms until you understand how to use your pill, and you and your partner have both been tested for STIs. For right before sex, make sure you and your partner are doing plenty of foreplay (20-30 mins) focused on getting YOU ready for sex. Sooooo many girls have painful sex because their partner has 45 mins of foreplay focused on them (blow job, hand job, etc) and then he half heartedly rubs their labia for 2 mins and thinks they’re ready for sex— THAT ISNT HOW IT WORKS. You deserve foreplay focused on your pleasure also. Things like oral, playing with your clit, deep kissing, sexy massages, etc all help get you relaxed so penetration is comfortable. Don’t accept the message girls are so often given that it’s okay if first time sex is painful. It isn’t. Sex should NEVER be painful. If you have had adequate foreplay, are well lubricated (use water based lube with condoms), and are relaxed sex shouldn’t hurt. And if it does that’s a sign you either need more foreplay/lube/to try again when you’re more relaxed/etc or to see your doctor. Pain during sex when you’ve done adequate foreplay, are properly lubricated, and feel relaxed and ready for penetration can be a symptom of some health issues like endometriosis, yeast infections, bacterial infections, and more. So if you’ve done enough foreplay, are properly lubricated, and are feeling ready for sex and you still have pain, it’s a good idea to visit your doctor or gynecologist. During sex, communicate with your partner. Tell him what you’re enjoying and what you aren’t. Ask him what he enjoys or wants to try. And make sure consent is enthusiastic and ongoing. If either of you seems uncomfortable, nervous, or not into it, that’s a sign you both need to stop what you’re doing and check in to see how your partner is doing. Don’t do anything you are uncomfortable with and make sure you are with a partner who respects you and that you feel comfortable communicating with. As long as you and your partner are both of age (so not an adult and a minor) and are both enthusiastically consenting, it’s okay to keep your sex life private. But if your doctor asks if you are sexually active, do not lie. They don’t personally care whether you are or not, but they sometimes need to know to help them pinpoint any possible health issues (STIs, pregnancy, whether or not you need emergency contraception, etc). If the doctor asks, it’s because they need to know for medical reasons, not to judge you. 🔷 These links also have more info 🔷 Pain during sex: {QeCDi6x9m} Here's a link to a super informative post about sex: {DeCDi6xhJ} These posts have quite a few replies about first time sex {ceCDi6xtC} {feCDi6xJs} Some Points About Consent: {2eCDi6xDo} An explanation of affirmative consent: {CeCDi6xlB} What can make the pill less effective? {HeCDi6xeC} What does a 3 or 12 hour usage window mean? {heCDi6x-0} Diarrhea and the pill {beCDi6xaI} Info for new birth control users: {UeCDi6xse} Difference between typical and perfect use: {weCDi6x-P} Why even virgins should get tested: {mACDi6xtx} Issues with sexual compatibility w/partner: {OeCDi6xkx} Resources regarding emotional abuse, domestic violence, sexual assault, and sexual harassment (alphabetical by country): {QACDi6xZu}

It took a couple attempts for us to have penetrative sex comfortably and without pain. Because when it hurt we STOPPED, fooled around in other ways and tried again a different day because sex isn’t supposed to be painful and I clearly wasn’t wet, relaxed enough and ready. But I don’t consider having penis in vagina sex as the first time I had sex. The first time my then-boyfriend and I just did a lot of making out, grinding, and masturbating each other/touching and we both had orgasms. That’s what I consider my first time having sex.

It was great. My partner is really experienced so he knew what he was doing, so I wasn’t in pain or anything. But I was also very horny and there was a buildup of about a month and a half of not having sex but knowing I was somewhat ready. I waited mainly because I wanted to make sure I was 100% sure and that we had explored a bit in general. As I hadn’t really been with anyone before him.

I didnt plan it but i knew it will happen soon. I felt ready and it was around 4 months into the relationship. I was 19. It didn’t hurt bc we had enough foreplay and i was like okay today is the day. It felt nice but didn’t last long.

It was akward and painful and because of those reasons didn’t last long at all. I just wasn’t ready for it so we stopped. It was quite a long road for me to relax enough to be able to have sex after that, but my bf was patient and caring enough to make me feel ok about it.