anyone have advice?...i broke up with my boyfriend of 7 months 3 weeks ago. he was very immature and hurt my heart often, though his intentions were usually good. he told me he loved me (for the 1st time) when i was breaking up with him. i am his first love, but i do not love him. anyways, my mental health has improved immensely since we broke up and i want to protect my energy. every time he has reached out or shown up at my place uninvited, i feel like i am taking steps backward and immediately feel miserable again. today, he texted to ask if we could speak face to face but that he wouldn’t try to convince me to get back together. we have had two face to face encounters since our breakup. the first time, he didn’t say anything, and the second he “said his peace” in ab 5 min and then was done. the only reason i feel obligated to answer him/have a face to face convo is bc i am his 1st love (and would feel awful if my 1st love dumped me then didnt respond if i had asked to talk) and we used to talk about how his biggest fear was someone abandoning him with no explain/reason. what should i do??? put myself first for once or have empathy for someone i once cared for (but that didn’t treat me well) ??
