TW: anxiety, mental health, covid, therapy So I’m in a bit of a situation. I’ve been trying to save up for a direct deposit while unemployed and it’s so hard. I don’t have a job right now due to covid and my anxiety holds me back from getting a job. I know it shouldn’t be that way but the fear of messing up, failing, doing something wrong scares the absolute sh*t out of me. That’s also why I don’t have a license yet. I feel like a let down to my family and friends. I feel like I’m not doing enough for anybody. My boyfriend just very recently got a job so that should help but I still feel so bad that I’m not doing anything. I’m getting unemployment but that’s not much either. I know that I should be going to therapy again but I don’t have the ability to right now. I called the place I go to for therapy and they’re only doing sessions over Skype. My boyfriend and I have basically been couch hopping for about a month and a half so I don’t have the privacy to be able to talk with her. My mental health has been terrible these past few months. I would just love some advice on what to do. Thanks in advance ladies! I appreciate you all.

First off, I’m sorry you’re going through a though time. It’s a really hard time right now with COVID. I understand how it must feel frustrating when it comes to not having your license but don’t be so hard on yourself! Everyone has their own time and process when they achieve things. That doesn’t make you any less. I know anxiety makes you have this voice in your heard making you seem like you failed even before actually attempting. Some advice I’ve gotten is to treat that voice in your head as if it’s a physical person telling you those things. You wouldn’t let a stranger put you down like that. Even talking back to that voice and telling them they’re wrong helps. Are you able to look for jobs? I know It must be hard due to COVID and probably not much hiring or being open.

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Why you do therapy over Skype? I wish I could go to therapy right now too all my therapists sessions are booked for the next month..

@ilovepizza I’m not doing therapy over Skype. They are because of covid.

@ssueno_ thank you for the advice! I’ve been looking but it’s been hard to find any decent jobs and of course, my anxiety. I’m also nervous about getting one because I’ll have to rely on people driving me to and from work and I’m scared I’ll be a burden on them.

Maybe try breaking things down into smaller steps!! You might not be ready for a job right now but you could do some research on places you would Iike to work, their application requirements, etc so once you’re ready it will be easier. Or say next week commit to fixing up your resume or something. Just small steps so you feel like you’re moving forward. You can also take small steps toward getting your license like studying for the written test (without actually planning on taking it), or driving at least 10 minutes a week. Whatever seems manageable to you, but try to take a small step forward every week, even if it’s tiny. If you’re able to find a private place for Skype therapy I’m sure that would be beneficial. I’ve done it in my car before, even if you don’t have one you might be able to borrow somebody else’s.

@grazydol8 Thank you so much for the advice!! I really appreciate it 💖