Hey guys! This is all going to sound ridiculous! But here we go! I am in a very happy and very loving relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years. The other night when we were in bed and a bit tipsy he asked me if I knew what my ring size was. I got a bit freaked out and told him this and he was super cool, saying he wasn’t planning anything and he just thought it would be good to know for the future but that he won’t do anything until I’m ready. The thing is, I definitely want to marry my guy, he’s amazing, my rock, my other half and my best friend, and I love romantic gestures and weddings so much! BUT! When it comes to me trying to actually picture being the centre of attention and telling people I’m engaged or getting married or even at a wedding it completely freaks me out. I used to be super shy and quiet but I’ve become a lot more confident over about the last 5 years and I thought I was absolutely fine now, I’m the most confident of my friends and I’m not afraid of ringing/talking to anyone now, but the thought of getting engaged properly makes me panic. As I said before it’s not the boy, he’s wonderful and I am very happy. I think this is about me, and my own insecurities, despite the fact I’m now much more confident, I think I still don’t like being the centre of attention at all. Has anyone else ever felt like this? Is this just a common thing that I’m being stupid for worrying about? Did anyone feel like this and when they got engaged/married felt absolutely fine? Please comment and help a girl out 😂 (Might be worth adding that even if we got engaged soon we wouldn’t get married for a while as our priorities are getting a house of our own first!)

I think that’s completely normal. Being in centre of attention also makes me panic!

Thats normal, you don’t have to get married infront of people you can do it in private, you could easily just get married on a holiday or something just you two as well without getting engaged too.

@bluerose9 thank you! I love the idea of getting married until I start thinking how I’ll have to tell people and people will congratulate me and talk about it and then when I get married I will be the entire centre of attention and it scares me so much

@Awg1 that’s a good point actually and I will keep that in mind, thank you. I do however love weddings and the big day but I think I’m scared of getting to that point after telling people I’m engaged and everyone making a big fuss over me

i HATE being the centre of attention! but just remember it’s your day and it doesn’t have to be a big huge wedding it can be a small one with people you are very comfortable with to make easier on you! just remember your boyfriend will be there with you and he’ll make you feel comfortable through the whole thing! also you don’t have to make then engagement a huge thing either (post it all over social media etc) keep it within your family or small group of friends so you are drawing attention from the people you are comfortable with! you can tell everyone that you don’t want to make it a huge deal:)

@sprintecccc you know what that is very true, I always just assumed everyone would find out about an engagement but like you said I’m the one in control of it and can tell people when I want! Thank you, and yes my boyfriend would be there the whole time, luckily I know I have a few years until this actually happens but the other day got me worrying and I just Id just check I wasn’t alone xx