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May 14
16:41
anybody ever been in a long distance relationship? my absolute bestfriend of 7 years moved to Louisiana when we graduated 4 years ago and that’s because we hadn’t accepted that we were supposed to be together & i was having a child with my boyfriend at the time.. he was devastated so after school, he moved back home with his family. we have finally accepted that we are absolutely in love w each other and he was home this past weekend and i haven’t been so happy in my life - BUT - he wants to see what happens in the next few months to a year before he moves home... how do i manage this to make sure it works? how do you be with someone so far away?
 
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May 14
19:46
I am with someone across the Atlantic and I can assure you if you both make an effort it can be okay and maybe even fun! Look at the silver lining. Before you get ahead of yourself! Please have a real conversation about expectations, limits, communication, etc.
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May 14
19:52
You said Louisiana but idk how far that is from where you live haha. Don’t stress about making it work, if it works it works. Don’t put the pressure solely on yourself
 
May 14
19:52
@leamarine that’s what i’m trying to do! we are very honest and blunt with each other when that is needed so communication isn’t an issue. i just worry sometimes about him and i know i shouldn’t. how do you get through the wanting to be with them? i don’t hang out with anyone because i have a 4 year old but there are days where i’m like... sad because i can’t be with him
 
May 14
19:53
@santaclariita it’s only 7 hours... “only” 😂 thing is, i have a child so it’s not like i can just pick up and go whenever i want. i know it’ll work i just didn’t know if there was some kind of secret to make it easier
 
May 14
19:57
I would say long distance works for some couples, and not for others. It really depends! But before you do it, just make sure you sit and talk about what you’re expecting, etc. - the key is communication! Really. Since you won’t be able to physically be together often, set time aside for phone calls, texts, Facetime, etc. Planning for future times that you can make a trip to see each other will give you something to look forward to! It’s definitely not easy, but you can still make it work if you both believe it’s worth it and put in the effort. x
 
May 14
20:00
@lilybee i definitely will do everything to make it work! we went to a wedding this past weekend and he did nothing but talk about our wedding so now we’re like 100% focused on the fact that we’re supposed to be together as cheesy as it sounds.
 
May 14
20:11
It’s definitely little moments like that when you’re together that can remind you that the relationship’s worth it! There are a lot of girls on this app doing long distance, so if you ever need to vent or ask for advice, you’re always welcome to! I was in an LDR with my bf for about a year (we were 6 hrs apart) and I’ve been home for about 6 months but we’re going back to long distance soon for at least another 4 years.. This time we’ll be states apart!
 
May 14
20:39
@lilybee ugh! it does make it worth it. especially after 7 years like, you can’t just throw us away that easily. but i am definitely willing to do what it takes until he is ready to come back home.
 

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