So I just passed my driving test
And to be able to get home from my job to my home at the end of the season I work
I have to drive 2/3 hours along motorways..I thought my boyfriend would be driving with me, but turns out he wants to stay behind by himself for longer so told me to drive myself home alone
Without him in front of me so I’m really upset anyone else think it’s unfair,
He doesn’t seem to care...
Oct 15 20:48
Well first of all, congratulations for passing your driving test, some people find it really difficult! I’m proud of you. As for the boyfriend situation, I’m not really sure. I can see your point of view, but if he didn’t actually tell you or imply he was going to drive back with you then he didn’t do anything wrong. I would be upset too though :( it’s nice to have someone come along with you instead of being on your own
Oct 15 21:18
You thought as in you assumed he would or as in he had said he would ?
Oct 15 21:18
But if you have your licence and your own car I don’t see why it’s unfair?
Oct 15 23:28
If I didn’t pass my test he’d be driving home with me and he normally drives home with me and says how much he loves driving me and was upset I was passing my test cause then he couldn’t drive me
Then suddenly because I have my car and said I don’t feel confident driving gome he then says he’s going to stay even longer so that he can ‘see the lads’ whicch to me just seems off and weird..
So I just feel like he doesn’t even love me anymore
We aren’t even seeing eachother over the whole of November
Oct 16 07:45
I don’t think that he’s wrong for wanting to stay and it’s not like you guys actually had plans to drive back together, so of course he’s just assume you’re driving yourself now you’ve passed. Does he make effort with you usually? I don’t think not seeing each other all of November is weird, unless you’ll be living very close to each other.
I get that you’re scared to drive back, I’d try to get some motorway lessons or can someone actually come in your car with you? (Even if it means them getting a train up) x
Oct 16 07:51
We live together on park for 9 months of a year
And everytime we had holiday booked this year to go away he decided he wanted to travel home to see his dying dog for half a day then the rest was spent travelling 2 hours back to the van to stay there alone
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Oct 16 08:23
@Marieoh it’s a bit of a stretch to say it feels like he doesn’t love you because he wants to spend a little more time with his friends this one time....
It’s totally understandable that you’re not confident yet! But he is no longer responsible for taking you home now, you can’t really expect that he’s still going to drive you home. I know you’re a little nervous but you are able to do it yourself now.
To be fair this year is exceptional, there’s very few people who managed to go on a holiday as normal.
If you feel like he’s not making much of an effort, have you spoken to him about it?