@sassquatch hey; if it helps I have a horrible relationship with my father. My relationship with my mom used to be extremely bad (I suffer from cPTSD as a result) but she learned and got better so now it’s ok, though yesterday we had a fight and that was tough. It’s not impossible that if once calm you have a proper conversation with your mom (or dad) whoever you feel more ok with, that maybe you could eventually get through to them like I did with my mom - though that of course depends on your personal circumstances. I’m just trying to say that even though I once was in a similar position to you, through many conversations and forcing my mom to see my psychiatrist to explain how her behaviour is damaging to me the situation improved massively. Also, if you’ve got your boyfriend and your sister, plus friends, maybe you could ask one of them if they’d be ok with you sleeping over at their place for a while? Also, if you don’t yet have a therapist, try and see one. Though many are expensive, it’s not impossible to find one that is not as much, or even see one for free (e.g. you can do that on the NHS in the U.K.). If not there’s also support groups for people with toxic parents - I could have a look and send links? This likely would help you feel less isolated in your struggles. Depending on your financial circumstances and general situation with your parents outside of this particular fight, maybe you could explain to them how living outside of their house (doesn’t have to be very expensive, you could rent a cheap-ish and find roommmates to lower costs too) would be helpful to both your relationship with them and everyone’s well being and mental health. I know of someone who was having difficulties with their family but after some discussion their parents provided them some money to live with some friends as they realised this was beneficial to everyone. These are all just different things to consider - just so you know there’s hope. And at worst, a good idea would be to establish an arrangement where you sleep over at one of your friends’, boyfriend’s or sister’s place once or twice a week. I’ve been having difficulties with my family lately and I sort of loosely agreed with a close friend to sleep over once or twice a week, and that’s been hugely helpful, allowing me to 1) take a break from them for my mental health, and spend quality time with a friend I love 2) allowing my family to appreciate the time we spend together more when I come back and they miss me 3) helps my friend to feel less lonely since he lives alone. I’m sure your friends/boyfriend/sister would enjoy your company - and this is quite an easy arrangement you can make instantly x.
Either way, aside from practical advice, I really feel you on this, having suffered from toxic parents myself. You’re beautiful and your feelings are valid and the situation sounds really difficult emotionally. Things will get better, I promise 💗