Is it possible and healthy to have had only one real, healthy, relationship in your life meaning in the end you will get married? Also in terms of they will be the first and only person you’ve had sex with, kissed, and done many other things with. Pretty much what i’m saying is, is it possible to have found the “perfect” person on the first try without experimenting with others?

Yes. My dad was my mom’s first everything. They met in HS. Been married 27 years. Since my dad was 20 and my mom was 18. It takes two things. First you have to be the kind of person who is not obsessed with having a lot of sexual partners. And don’t feel like you’re missing out because you’ve only been with 1 person. And 2nd the person you are with should not be crazy or a bad person either. Rarely do both of these happen but of course it’s possible. There are arrange marriages that still happen and even in the olden days it was normal to marry super young and stay married.

I don’t think it’s about finding the “perfect” person, it’s more about finding someone who you can grow and change with over the years yet still remain together. That’s the key to having a lasting relationship. Because you’re both going to change significantly as people over time so you have to be able to adapt to that. Some relationships are capable of weathering that and some aren’t.

I say this as someone who has been with their partner for over 11 years now - who the heck knows? Like honestly? I can’t tell you if he’s the “perfect” person for me but I can tell you that the reason we’ve survived this long is our desire to not only grow as individuals, but together. Because as I’ve learned over the years, it’s less about experimenting with others, but more about experimenting with yourself (if that makes sense??? Idk this could just be me). We’ve made it work because we allowed ourselves to live our lives while still being together. Of course I occasionally wonder if I’m missing out but I ultimately also don’t care if I am.

I don’t think any relationship is perfect but I definitely think it’s possible to have a good, lifelong relationship without having more than one partner. You can still grow and mature while being with only one person. My parents have been together since they were 12. 30 years later and they’re still together. They have witnessed each other’s growth in almost every stage of their lives, and that’s precious.

I love @eribell ‘s response! I think you can have a nice healthy relationship many times in your life, I don’t believe there is “the one”. You can just click with different people and build one another, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you will not be able to click and grow with someone else. But I also don’t think every relationship that didn’t work is a failure, so maybe we differ already in our terms of success in a relationship.

I’ve been with my boyfriend since we were 13. We are now nearly 21 and are happier than ever. We’ve moved out together, bought a car together, we’ve grown up together and I’m so happy to have come into adulthood with my life partner. It really is beautiful. I know that he’s the one for me. I know we will be with each other forever without a single doubt. Yes you may think “it’s impossible to tell” however when you know you know. I know obviously it’s possible for a breakup, I’m not thick. But I strongly believe he’s “the one” and I don’t say that lightly

I’m marrying my first boyfriend and first guy I had sex with

@LegallyBrond that’s amazing! I love hearing stories when things are going great and it looks like there’s a bright future ahead:)

Yes I like to believe that this is possible. The guy I’m dating is truly the only one I ever see myself being with

My parents got married when they were 18 and 19, and and are still happily married now, 38 years later. I think the biggest thing is being able to grow together and tackle issues together. And of course good communication is key. They stayed together when they were 18 years old just starting out in life and my mom was a hotel housekeeper and he was a garbage man. They had to roll quarters to buy groceries, and waited 10 years to start having kids because they didn't want to stretch themselves to thin (and they also wanted to enjoy being young together). And now they're still together and happy. And honestly that's what I want for myself.

I’ve been with my boyfriend nearly 3 years now and he’s the only guy I’ve been with ever. From first kiss to everything else! Honestly think I’ll marry him,yeh we have our issues and neither of us are perfect but I can’t imagine being with anyone else! But I have thought about what it would be like to be with a different person but I think that’s healthy! So I’ve wondered the same thing but I think if you’re happy and it works then there’s nothing wrong with it 😊

@Sams2095 ahhhh love hearing all these great stories makes me happy that it’s possible to only ever need to be with one person:)

@TCB123 ya ofcourse everyone is going to wonder what it’s like but why give up something healthy and you’re happy with just to see if you would prefer something else